Ways To Engage Kids in Wedding Ceremonies
A junior wedding attendant is a very special person at a wedding. This is usually a young person who is a bit young to serve as a member of the wedding party. They are usually between 8 and 14-years of age. Their relationship in the couple’s life demands that they share in this most important day.
This is especially true when they are the children of the couple getting married. Including their children is a great way to show them that the day is not just about the adults, but about beginning a new family. It shows that their feelings are considered. While change is hard for everyone, this is a good way to begin a change in a positive way.
The junior attendant is included in any activity that the other wedding participants are included in, as long as it is age-appropriate. They can shop, go to have their hair styled, go to special lunches, and spa days. Often the members of the wedding have special events that a junior attendant is old enough to do. A camping or adventure trip is one example. It is a great way to have fun and bond with each other.
Junior Attendants Attire
The junior attendant should be dressed in an age-appropriate version of the clothing chosen for your other attendant. Of course, you will have a few considerations. The version of clothing chosen for the younger members of the wedding should be made to cover young bodies without fear of a mishap. Adults wearing expensive designer shoes are something they will care for and love for years. A growing child will not have that respect for the expensive attire. They will outgrow them far before the shoes have aged out. So, a substitution may be in order.
Other things your junior attendant can be included in:
- Making wedding favors
- Attending shopping events
- Helping attendants seat guests (especially parents and grandparents)
- Passing out programs
- Passing out bubbles, rice, or confetti after the ceremony
- If the child is not too tired, she/he can greet guests in the reception line
Donation of the wedding flowers
The flowers for a wedding are costly. They are used throughout the ceremony. Sometimes, they are used to decorate the tables at the reception. After that, it seems a waste to simply throw them away. One popular concept is to gather the flowers and have someone donate them to a local nursing home. This brings joy and beauty to the lives of seniors who have far too little happiness in their world.
Provide a wagon or basket for the junior attendant to collect all of the flowers as the reception is winding down. This is an important responsibility and they will enjoy knowing they are part of the plans to bring joy to others.
Helping with cleanup
A wonderful thank you gift for your junior attendant is an instant camera. They are like the old polaroid cameras. The mini photo pops out and develops before your very eyes. Provide a photo album. You may be surprised at some of the great memories they capture.
Many junior attendants are given the honor of performing at the wedding. If she or he is in dance, a dance performance in a special dance outfit from a quality place like Justforkixs is in order.
If your union is blending two established families, consider including the junior attendant in the vow exchange. This is a part of many weddings where families are being blended. The parents write vows to the children to love and protect them. The parents can help the children in writing vows to the new members of the family.
It is important to understand that these are vows. They are promises. Children should not be forced to write or recite any promises that they do not want to or that they feel they cannot keep. A child might promise to try to help their new parent or siblings feel welcome or to try to share their life with them. Just let them fit in naturally. If that is too difficult. Have them simply accept the vows being offered. Remember they are children.
Including children at the wedding that have a special place in your heart is endearing and it helps get your union off to a great start. This is a wonderful way to acknowledge that every member of the family matters and is considered.
We live in a changing world. For generations, we have told our children to work hard and they can be anything they want to be. The current generation is proving that to be true. Nothing can hold us back. Nothing is off-limits or out of reach to any of us.
A junior attendant is a person who is growing in that world. They are not accepting no for an answer, They accept the right to be anything they want to be and refuse to be forced into a mold that they do not fit in.
Your union will be a beautiful expression of love, honor, and respect everyone is entitled to. So, feel free to make your own traditions. Be the family that is unique and inspired.